Fitting in Jiu Jitsu and managing some or all of these other important things can be really stressful and can really effect your training. I've written a blog in the past about peaks and valleys. This can really put you in a "valley".
I've been told "leave your stress and problems off the mats". "Make the gym your happy place" but, as much as I try that doesn't always work. Here's a couple of good answers I have heard from some other BJJ ladies that may work for some of you and maybe take away the guilt of leaving the family to train, that I wanted to share:
1. Remember that taking this "me" time makes you feel more relaxed which in turn makes a better mom, employee, wife/girlfriend, student, WOMAN!
2. Keep training, the nights you go in feeling your worst sometimes end up being your BEST nights of training.
3.You teach your kids by example. You have committed to training BJJ and you are staying dedicated and following through with your commitment.
4. Take a week off (no longer though) sometimes taking a break makes your mind clear, heals your sore muscles or minor injuries or lets your family see you are INSANE when you don't have BJJ in your life and they may insist you go back ;)
Please feel free to put in your comments, personal experience or helpful tips!